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Friday, October 28, 2016

Time to Say Goodbye

It isn't easy to let go of people, especially ones that have been part of your life story for more years than you care to remember.
I've found letting go of a woman I called my best friend challenging.
No matter how the journey ended, I'd be lying if I said that many of  my memories of her were not filled with laughter, adventure, tears and challenges. 
They were!
We survived so much together.
Our friendship was not perfect but then neither were we.
You think after 30 years we would have figured it out: how to be true to one another.
She taught me to laugh and for that I will always be grateful.
I'm not certain how we ended up here. Two women that began a friendship when they were barely into their twenties.
Maybe I do know, but those thoughts I will keep to myself.
I can only say that I am filled with regret and sadness-the loss has been profound.
Too many things were left unsaid.
I thought we would be Ethel and Lucy forever, full of our crazy antics,
 but God had a different plan for us.
We only have each other to blame for this tragic ending; God handed us a gift and we squandered it. 
Beyond the bitterness and anger of the she did this, she forgot this, this is mine... are the memories.
I will never forget her.
You go, I go!
I guess we forgot that promise.
I bless her journey and hope God fills her life with abundance.

Cherish your friendships.
This life is but a brief spec in time.
Do not waste it with pride and vanity.
They make a lonely brew.

Friday, February 12, 2016

The Fork in the Road

I'm certain most everyone wonders what life might have been had they chosen a different path.
One decision alters our course and the effect of that choice ripples, impacting not only the people we know, but the universe.
It's strange to think that one person in seven billion could have that kind of power.
 We are all interconnected, a singular voice of humanity.

Each act we commit, knowingly or not, echoes through time.

Let's imagine you give a homeless person a hundred dollars and he uses it to clean up and go to a job interview. Had you ignored him he may not have lived another day.
Your phone rings, it's an old friend who weighs heavily on you. In that moment you decide not to answer. What happens?
You let someone into the line of heavy traffic and you save them from an accident.
You drive by an elderly person struggling with grocery bags. Do you stop to help, or not.

You meet two new people, decide to date the first one instead of the second. You later discover the one you passed on went on to become a famous novelist. 

If we could map our lives, we would see the thousands of forked roads we've encountered, the number of times we chose one path instead of the other.

At the end of it all we can have no regrets. Each choice defined and refined us and we must believe that we are meant to be exactly where we are.

If our lives are enriched by the love of family and friends, if our careers are driven by passion then our roads have been well chosen.

“It's the ride of life the journey from here to there living and loving every moment like we have none to spare.” 
― Jess "Chief" BrynjulsonHighway Writings

Monday, April 13, 2015

The Beautiful

The dictionary defines beautiful as possessing qualities that give great pleasure or 
  satisfaction to see, hear, think about; delighting the senses or mind.

Do we all perceive beauty in the same way? Is one person's perception of that which is beautiful the same as another's?

I believe that beauty is in the eye of the beholder and beauty is seen in different ways by us all. 
Yet there are those who reside in an elite class who are beautiful to everyone. They possess a uniqueness, a perfection, an aura that captivates all beholders. It is to these people that doors open wide.
Many years ago I came across a book that addressed the topic of how human beings, even as infants, respond to beautiful faces.
Beautiful people, many times unknowingly on the part of the other, incite 
more smiles,
better service,
kinder responses,
more attention.
are given more opportunities.

To know this type of beauty is a gift. To see it fade with age is a burden. 
Time is the master who gives no quarter.

Physical beauty does not last forever. Even the beautiful wrinkle and the attention born of their beauty pales and they become invisible.
The new beautiful are born.

It is best to remember that
it is the beauty of the soul that transcends time.

Saturday, January 31, 2015

Find Joy in the Ordinary

Most of our time is spent in a state of the ordinary; doing those things we have to do to get by.
It is here in this place that we should find our deepest joy. Living for extraordinary moments to come to find that joy would be such a waste of life.
Yesterday morning as I drove to work along a hilly, isolated road, enveloped by the predawn darkness, brisk cold and falling snowflakes, I thought, "how beautiful is this moment?"
I was alone yet so connected to life.
A smile from a student, a greeting from a coworker, a hug from your children, a cup of coffee waiting at your desk, these are moments of joy.
Knowing that you are where you were meant to be, pursuing a dream, 
being loved by others, all moments of joy.
Joy comes from knowing that somehow, even in the smallest measure, you have made someone's life richer.

Perhaps the greatest joy comes simply from being alive and being connected to that which makes you you, your spirit.
May your journey be blessed as you find your joy!

Thursday, January 15, 2015

Tell Me Something Good!

Wouldn't it be wonderful if a more that a fleeting segment of the news was dedicated to uplifting human stories?
Mankind needs that.
Every time I watch the news I'm bombarded with atrocities, devastation, natural disasters, the depravity of men.
Surely there is so  much more to the human condition than this.
Tell us good things, show us images of God's landscape, infuse our minds with hope.
If not then what is the purpose of life.
We should not live in fear but in grace, appreciating that the majority of people are good.

Friday, January 9, 2015

Do you Belong Here?

From the minute we are born we are seeking to belong in this world. Finding our place among men is not easy. And if we are not round pegs then the difficulty of this journey is magnified ten fold.  

One of the most challenging things to accept in life is that we will not always be welcome at everyone's table. 
The group of girls in the playground  may not like your hair and so they turn you away.
The cool clique in high school may think your clothes are dorky so they turn you away.
The people in your office think you're too smart, too good looking, too ambitious so they turn you away.
The academics snub their noses at your many years of experience so they turn you away.
Family members forget to call you, your supposed girl friends lose your number, professionals ignore your success and never acknowledge your work.

Your space at their tables is reserved for another.
And for awhile these people may defeat your spirit.

And then one day in a moment of pure clarity you see the truth.
They don't deserve to have you at their table.
In that moment you are freed.

So set your own table and invite only those who respect you, love you and appreciate you for the gift that you are.

And use a checkered table cloth :)
Have a great day!

Sunday, January 4, 2015

Begin Anew

Begin Anew

It's a New Year, a New Day, A New You!

We don't have to wait until the clock strikes twelve on December 31 to make new commitments to ourselves do we?
Maybe we do. 
Somehow this one night has that kind of effect on many of us. 
It gives us the opportunity to reflect on all that has come to pass in a year and to move forward and hopefully make some improvements.
What did you promise to do:
lose weight, travel, write a book, bridge a broken relationship, take care of your health...
There are so many choices.
I offer this.
Perhaps this year you can take your soul out of the box and stop living your life according to what people expect of you. Haven't you done enough of that?
Each life is just a whisper in time.  None of us comes out alive so be true to yourself.
Live each day like you're going to a party. Celebrations only come once in awhile but life happens everyday.
Dress and look your best. 
Speak kindly to others. Words are inexpensive.
Give freely
Love abundantly
Ask for what you what
Be fearless
Each day do one thing that feels right to you.
Nothing stays the same forever so embrace change.
And no matter what your faith, gives thanks for your blessings.